How God's principle protected my marriage?

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After marriage, one day, I was called by my parents to discuss an issue.
At the end of discussion, one of them said, "Don't share or discuss this with your wife. It'll only worry her. Why cause her to worry unnecessarily?!"
"What?!" I wanted to hear once more to be sure.
"yeah, why cause her to worry unnecessarily?"
I looked at their face. They smiled. They meant what they said. Their intention to avoid a difficult & complex discussion between me & my wife was clear.
Their intention to maintain peace between me & my wife was clear.
I liked their intention.
"Sure. I'll not share & discuss with my wife," I said.
They smiled. They were pleased.
Thus, I honoured their intention.

But in the light of God's intention for me to become one with my wife, it didn't make sense; it wasn't meaningful.
I continued the conversation. "Yeah, I'll not tell my wife. But going forward, in future, if there is any such issue where you don't want my wife to know, kindly don't discuss with me. Pray about it and tell to God." I smiled.
"What?!" one parent screamed. Face changed.
Other parent was silent.
"Did you hear what he said?" the angry one asked the other parent.
"yeah... yeah... " nodding continued.
"Why? What's wrong? Didn't you all along with pastors solemnly told me to consider her as flesh of my flesh & bone of my bone?" I bursted out.
There was silence in the room.
"Hmm... I think he is right," one parent broke the silence.
"Whoa! How these guys are changing after marriage!" one exclaimed.
"Of course. I am not the same. My other half is in the other room," I winked.
"Go. Go. We are done with our discussion," they drove me out of their room.

During their night-time prayers & sleep, God gave them peace as I understood from their as usual smiles with which they responded to my "Good morning" greetings the next day morning.
Subsequently, they always discussed any  sensitive issues with the understanding that it'll always be known to my wife.


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