Why Mother-in-law issues within families of God?

Let us take a small detour and talk about God's love vs. Natural love. Yeah, these are the two major types of love, if you haven't heard before.

Natural Love:

"A mother's love is same to the love of God," I've heard people say. I too thought the same at one time. But it isn't so. Mother's love is a natural love. "That's my baby!"
"Oh, I love my children, I love them," a woman came crying to me saying, "I want you to pray for them. I've brought them up right here in this church, and I don't understand it. Not a one of them will come to church nowadays except my girl. So much of demonic attacks in our family"
One of her daughters played the keyboard and she was the only one who came, to play keyboard at church.
Also, sadly, one of late teen boy had just run away from home.
She said, "There isn't anyone in this church that loved their children more than I loved mine."

I said, "Sister, there has to be a reason. I don't know much about you or your family, but I can see this poor girl here in the worship team for few months now. And, I have been seeing how you've been handling her with your love. And, I can guess the reason why one of them ran off! Because you wouldn't let them out of your radar. You are running their lives entirely."
I looked at this girl at the keyboard and she ducked her head. 

That's what nice daughters do, to pretend not listening, in such unexpected open & transparent critical feedback to her mother.
Mother fumbled for words.
"I'd also guess that your daughter doesn't have a friend in her life," I paused. "Is this true or not?" I said. 
"Well, no," she said, "I just always kept her at home. I thought I could raise her up better."
"No, you couldn't. Her personality is twisted or be twisted. You don't have your children's interests at heart. You have your own interests at heart. You want to keep them with you. You desire more for people to appreciate you as a good Mom" 

"Yes! I want to be a good mother. Which mother wouldn't want to earn the appreciation of being a good mother," her voice raised in anger. 

This is that epitome of natural love, the self-centered love.

Have you ever noticed that mother-in-law rarely have trouble or be easy on their son-in-law? 

"He doesn't listen to me. In fact, he wouldn't listen to anybody. I just accepted him as he-is and do my best to love him," would most probably the words of my Mother-in-law, if anybody asks her about me.   

It's usually with daughter-in-law, that a mother-in-law expect changes in lifestyle & behaviors!

Have you wondered why? 
Because mother-in-law loves her son so much that she wants her daughter-in-law to be the next best woman in the world for her son. 

Oh! yes, daughter-in-law may be saved, even filled with the Holy Spirit, and even talking in tongues, but instead of handing-over both of them to God & trusting God to do his new work through her married son's life, she takes the matter in her own hands. 

The natural love dominates mother-in-law's heart. 

And, thus, end-up constantly giving feedback to her daughter-in-law as opportunities for improvements for their holistic life. 

Another reason for troubles is that for years the mother was the main one in the life of this boy. Mother brought him up and wants to keep on telling him what to do.

And now, the wife also wants to tell him what to do because she loves him & he loves her. 

Thus, he's in a dilemma, frequently confused, frequently shouts at his wife and or shouts at his mother. 

This again is the epitome of natural love, the self-centered love -- the love from me, my family, my resources, my connections, my families, my friends!... all me & mine. :-) 

Natural love can turn to hatred when it doesn't get its way. 

It will make us scream or quarrel, it'll make us grumble or murmur, it'll make us scratch or hit, it'll curse or be mean, it'll stop our key responsibilities towards each other. 

Thus, the natural love dies! 

Many Christians are going to divorce court, because their egos are hurt, damaged, & beyond repair, which is what they think! 

So they take action and go to court to protect & salvage whatever remaining ego they have!

"You take care of me! I'll take care of you! Nothing more, nothing less!" says Natural love. 

God's Love:

God's love is in our hearts, but it may be like the talent that was wrapped in a strong protective sheets and hidden in the earth. 

We may not use it, but there is the God's love in our hearts.
If we would use it by practicing it against our desires & will, we can learn to receive power & endurance from God's love.

Over a period of time, we'll also witness how God's love dominate and take complete control of our natural love. (Yes! natural love wouldn't vanish or disappear, it'll remain in our hearts till death :-)  

God's love would help us apologize when someone feels hurt & also will help us hear the hurting people's words. 

God's love has the potential to heal the hurts and resolve battles among family members in our homes, if and only if we exercise our faith in God. 

God's love has never been to a divorce court, and will never go. It's the natural love that take us to divorce courts.

God' love, when it is mocked, will not mock in return. 

Scripture speaks of being made perfect, or mature, in love. 

No, we haven't been made perfect in love yet, but we can be and some of us are on our way. 

I sincerely hope & pray that many see how God's love can solve many problems in their families. God's love is not interested in what I can get or what I can be benefited, but on how I can surrender me and let God accomplish his purposes for my life through my works. 

God wants us to grow. And thank God, we can grow in his love.

-- copied from another source & edited for refinements (Kindly let me know if you know the source, as I forgot the source, so that I can include the necessary courtesy & acknowledgements properly :-)